As I’ve Aged
One Woman’s Opinion
By – Sheri de Grom
As I’ve aged, I’ve become kinder to myself, and less critical of myself. I’ve become my own friend. I have seen too many dear friends leave this world too soon, before they understood the great freedom that comes with aging.
Whose business is it if I choose to read or play on the computer until four a.m. or sleep until noon? I will dance with myself to those wonderful tunes of the 60s, 70s and 80s and if, at the same time, I wish to weep over a lost love, I will.
I will walk the beach in a swimsuit that is stretched over a bulging body, and will dive into the waves with abandon if I choose to, despite pitying glances from the jet set. They, too will grow old. I know I am sometimes forgetful. But there again. some of life is just as well forgotten . . . and I eventually remember the important things.
Sure, over the years my heart has been broken. How can your heart not break when you lose a loved one, or when a child suffers, or when someone’s beloved pet gets hit by a car? But broken hearts are what gives us strength and understanding and compassion. A heart never broken is pristine and sterile and will never know the joy of being imperfect.
I am so blessed to have lived long enough to have my hair turn gray, and to have my youthful laughs etched into deep grooves on my face. So many have never laughed and so many have died before their hair could turn silver. As you age, it’s easier to be positive. You care less about what other people think. I don’t question myself quite as much, I’ve earned the right to be wrong.
I like being old. It has set me free. I like the person I have become. I am not going to live forever, but while I’m still here, I will not waste time lamenting what could have been, or worry about what will be. And I shall eat desert every single day, if I choose to.
Author Unknown –
My best friend over the past 40+ years sent me the above prose and I’ve read it many times over. I’ve encountered the afternoon of my life many times over the past several months and although there’s still much I wish to accomplish, there’s also a certain satisfaction in knowing what has been accomplished is for the common good.