With A Little Help from My Friends
Slice of Life
By: Sheri de Grom

Hello my friends. I’ve missed communicating with you on a regular basis, although I enjoyed our contact when I started reading and commenting on your blogs.

I’m still recovering from my hand and arm surgery that I wrote about here but thanks to HAND NERVEStwelve years of classical piano, I’m up to a little over 70 wpm with my left hand. It’s taking longer than expected for the nerves in my right arm to accept their new placement and two fingers are now working. The wonderful news is that I have the feeling back in the palm of my right hand and once again I’m able to embrace so many wonderful sensations that were missing.

ELBOW NERVEI’ve learned a lot about myself recovering from this last surgery, especially since it fell so quickly after the previous surgery. I still have infections going on and more often than not, my body reminds me that I’m not in control. I’ve looked my own mortality in the face.

Anesthesia has not been my friend and it caused additional problems with my already existing traumatic brain injuries. (i.e. constant nausea, dizziness, unsteady gait, kidney stones, and constant migraines with blurred vision).

However, there’s much to celebrate:

I’ve met many new blogging friends.

Friends call and visit on a regular occasion.

My critique partner and treasured friend provided me the gift of a new iPad. How did I iPAD PHOTOever live without one? You don’t have to answer. The iPad allows me to keep up with my blogging world without being at the keyboard. It saves my arm and fingers plus the energy required of actually being in my office.

I’ve had the opportunity to read as many hours as I’ve wanted BOOK - CLIP ARTand discovered some ten-star novels for both men and women. Reviews will follow.

I’m learning that it’s okay to ask for help and to accept the help without apologizing.

Thanks to each and everyone for stopping by and cheering me on. I hope to resume my regular schedule of blogging on Monday and Thursday but the coming weeks will tell. I continue with the torture chamber; some call it physical therapy.

How about you? Have you learned valuable life lessons when you’ve been forced to change due to curve balls thrown in your direction?

About Sheri de Grom

Retired Fed/JAG, 5 yrs. on Capitol Hill. Former book buyer for B and N. Concerned citizen of military drawdown. Currently involved in mental healthcare reform, health care strategist and actively pursuing legislative change wherein dual retirees are exempt from enrolling in Medicare at their own discretion without losing tertiary healthcare benefits. Monitor and comment on Federal Register proposed legislation involving Mental Health, Veterans Affairs, Health and Human Services, Medicare and rural libraries. Licensed OSHA Inspector to include Super Fund sites. Full time caregive to Vietnam era veteran. Conceptualized, investigated possible alternatives, authored, lobbied for, and successfully implemented Title X, Section 1095 (known as the Third Party Collection Program of Federal Insurance).
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  1. My whole life has been one long, fast curve ball!…………….lol

  2. Robynn Gabel says:

    Though I’m getting in on the tail end of your medical problems, I must admire how you strive to stay on top of them with your positive attitude. I hope your recovery is swift.

  3. Thanks for the reblog. I believe Joe must have had more than Wonder Bread when the video was cut, don’t you think?

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  5. kyrian says:

    Thanks for sharing and followship. God bless!

  6. Nice to “meet” you and connect! Oh boy, life and those pesky curve balls! Good to know you’ll be around to read more posts from!

  7. ladysighs says:

    I have you in my To Follow List, but this post never appeared in the Reader. I just happened to come by. It seems a lot of fans have also stopped by to give encouragement and greet you. One hates to read about another’s ills and afflictions. We just want to read happy things. But often we can learn a lot when we read the experiences of others. They can give us information and some coping skills. Glad you are optimistic about recovery and have some tools that help you return to the blogging community.
    Thanks for reading my blog as I can see by the many likes….you have a lot of others to read. 🙂

    May I suggest another blog to add to your list in your spare time. It is just me in another form. I don’t know why I think I need two blogs. lol I certainly don’t have much to say. You might find something enjoyable to read or listen to. And like most blogs you might find something you don’t enjoy.


  8. There have been several curve balls thrown my way. My most recent one was losing my job for the first time in my life. It taught me that not only am I resilient, it’s never too late to pursue your dreams! 🙂

    • Kitt – Isn’t it the truth about those darn curve balls. If it hadn’t been for my losing a job I thought I was in love with once upon a time, I’d never have found the career that turned out to be my ultimate career and the place I belonged to do the most good. It’s interesting to me how life works in such mysterious ways. Thank you for dropping my.

  9. So glad that you are back! I love your determination and attitude. As difficult as p.t. can be….the outcome is worth it. (I’m starting my 4th month!) Prayers for continued patience and healing, sweet Sheri ♥

    • Paula – My heart goes out to you. Four months with the torture chamber. You, my friend deserve a purple star. I often go kicking and screaming. It’s not the fact that I don’t want to go, it’s the chunk that it takes out of my day. Thanks for cheering me on. I know I have to do it if I ever want my hand and arm back. I may drop in on your blog and instead of commenting on the fun and heartfelt blogs you bring us – I’ll say – “Paula, remind me, why do I have to go?”

  10. Patty B says:

    Sheri you have been missed! Praise God you are doing well. My prayers and thoughts are with you and I know you feel blessed to experience the presence of God in your life during this time and to know you are well loved and appreciated by all that know you. God be with you and touch you with His healing hands as you continue to recuperate.

    • Patty – Top of the morning to you. Your message is the 1st one I see as I prepare to see the surgeon today. I so want good news. I miss ‘me’ and I’m positive so many of my blogging friends have felt the same way as they’ve faced trials of their own. Walking with God is my saving grace. He kept me strong and on my feet dealing with a oh so tough world all the years I worked. He knew there wasn’t a moment i could let my guard down. Perhaps it’s time for my body to recover from those twenty years of being at the top of my game. Now it’s time to roll back the pace and trust He’ll take care of me. I’m in His care.

      • Patty B says:

        Let us know the good news (I’m thinking positive)! I know it is hard for us to realize when it is time to roll back the pace and trust God – but with the power of the Holy Spirit we can accomplish all things! Prayers

  11. Kelly says:

    Hang in there Sheri. Your shoulder may need to heal but your imagination can keep working!

  12. Sheryl – Thank you. I realized I was receiving the fashion blog in my reader but not the diary blog so I’ve hopefully fixed that now. It’s nice to hear from you.

  13. Sheryl says:

    Welcome back! My thoughts are with you as you continue to heal from the surgery.

  14. Deborah – I’ll do my best to ‘let it be’ and accept life as it presents itself. Thank you for your kind words. Sheri

  15. terribly sorry Sheri… The clock sure feels like it slows down when routine and quotidian life is altered. I read a great deal to, but it certainly allows one to evaluate what’s really important ! God bless and heal you swiftly friend ~my prayers will be with you. Sincerely Deborah

    • Deborah – How right you are. My feet were pulled out from under me in Oct and I’ve been struggling since then. I roam around freely on your blog. I find comfort and wisdom and bits of guidance that seem so appropriate for the moment I’m in. I learn much from your experiences and your ever present faith. Thank you for being so present and firm.

      • thank You dear~ You’re a strong woman and, even though many say that God never gives us more than what we can bear is a cliche, a crrutch, the truth is, the God of love wouldn’t ever design us to fail, so, throughout my valleys I’ve experienced that everything is properly fashioned to fit our eternal needs, not temporal ones alone. We are first Spiritual beings therefore, evry trial is spiritually based. Don’t fight against circumstances but labor to learn and overcome and, I promise you, you’ll find grandiose inspiration and sides of you never imagined!

  16. Mae Clair says:

    So glad to see a new post from you Sheri! That’s a sign of recovery. It sonds like you’re still having some issues, so take it slow and don’t over tax yourself. I’m glad the iPad makes it easier for you (what a wonderful gift). You and your wonderful blog posts have been missed. I’m so thankful to see this update from you and know that you’re on the mend!

    • Mae – Thank you for checking in. I finally discovered last night that I didn’t have you checked to appear in my reader – ugh and shame on me. I think I have everything going the right way now. And, yes – I’m in love with the iPad. Hubby has decided he must have one also. He’ll toddle off to bed commenting, “Don’t stay up all night playing with that thing.” Of course, those of us in the blogging world know we’re working – right?

  17. I’m so happy to read this post and know that you are on your way to healing. So sorry, though that you’re still having a rough time of it. I totally get you with the nausea/dizziness thing. I’ve been battling something and that is so not fun! I hope your hand comes out of all this stronger, better, faster. Yay for your friend! I don’t know how I ever lived without an iPad, too. My husband gave me one last year and it’s my constant companion. Even though I have a laptop! I love it. And now all those books you can carry around with it. Oh my stars!

    It’s so good to see you again. Keep us informed and I’ll keep sending hugs and well-wishes your way.

    • Tameri – Hello my friend. It’s so nice to see you again. Thanks to a previous review you wrote, one of the books I read during my 100% down time was ‘Finding Emma’ by Stenna Holmes.’ It’s a great read and I’ll have a review coming up in the near future.

      I so understand about the nausea/dizziness business. I’ve entered into I believe my sixth prescription. It knocks the ‘want to’ right out of me. I plan to be back here on Thu with a review of Julie Kibler’s debut novel, Calling Me Home. If I gave stars with my reviews, it would earn at least ten.

  18. So sorry about all the trouble, Sheri, and so glad you’re getting it back together. Hope you can hold a coffee cup in your left hand. I treasure your blogs, but don’t let us rush you or the doctors slow you down. Go at YOUR pace.

    • Hi David – You know, one of the nice things about growing older is that I’m finally learning how to pace myself. I still vividly remember the 80+ work weeks (and I was paid salary and not hourly). I don’t want my tombstone to read, ‘She’s glad she stayed so long at the office!’ Back in the day when insurance companies weren’t so cranky, I had an internist put me in the hospital for two full weeks – with orders that I was to have no visitors and no telephone calls. The office could not contact me for any reason. It was beautiful. I had a private room over-looking Monterey Bay, CA with a little patio of my own complete with blooming orchids, etc. It’s amazing how much things have changed. The insurance company paid 100%. I still have the same insurance – you sure couldn’t get that by them now.

  19. terry1954 says:

    I wish you continued healing. What a great gift you received. This is something I would love to have to share sports photos and information with my brother at the nursing home. But I can’t afford it right now with the care of him. Someday hopefully

    • Terry – Yes, wouldn’t it be wonderful to have a small devise that’s so easy to carry and operate – you could share so many things with Al. The opportunities would be endless. You could play music that might help ease his anxiety or soothe him into sleep – – – there’s so many things I can do with the i-Pad and the relief to my hands and arm are insurmountable. I had no idea I would use an i-Pad as much as I do. I don’t leave home without it.

      • terry1954 says:

        oh yes that would be wonderful. Al likes to listen to soothing music. He tells me it helps him. I have purchased players for him but his fingers can no longer use them. If I get the chance to own one of these before he no longer can embrace life at all, I think I could take it in and play it for him while I sit with him

        • That sounds heavenly. I was able to get my father a CD player with a number of CDs that he liked and show him how to operate it while he was undergoing chemo and even years later when the cancer came back and attacked the final time he still listened to music a lot. Often when we were together, he’d have one ear plug in and I’d have the other. Remember, you as the caregiver need extra love and attention also. Often that’s hard to work into our schedules.

          • terry1954 says:

            I rarely think of myself, but I do recognize that I am tired a lot. I think my mind becomes tired and my body follows. I find myself going to bed earlier more often than not.I am sorry that your Father is no longer with you but I am sure he is in your heart as Al is in mine.

  20. Welcome Back. Missed you bunches.

  21. Jane Sadek says:

    So glad you’re back. Mostly for your sake, but selfishly a little for mine. I missed your ability to go deep here in the blogosphere which seems to get lighter everyday.

    • Thank you, Jane. I’m looking forward to hearing about your cruise and the adventures you took part in. I believe I finally have your blog reporting into my reader. I don’t plan to miss a single one of your blogs – if you don’t see my face pop up on your blog within a reasonable period of time – something is not working right. I’ll do my best to stay on top of it.

  22. She’s baaaack! Yay! Living in a small rural community where most people don’t speak English (and my French is just so-so) made my 18 months of surgery and chemo very isolating as I don’t have any family within striking distance. Had it not been for the phone and email, I wouldn’t have been able to keep in touch with my friends in Ottawa, where we used to live. Like Patti, I’m happily in the stat basket of survivors. It’s a fine place to be!

    • Hi Mary – I’m more than ready for the stat basket – just as long as it’s the positive number. One of the things I’ve found comfort in is that even though I couldn’t blog for a long time, I could bounce in to other blogs and read and occasionally leave a brief comment. I’ve met such wonderful friends here in the blogging universe, to include you my friend. I had no idea when I started blogging that I’d actually get to know ‘real’ people. This is an interesting universe we live in.

  23. Hetterbell says:

    I wish you well with your recovery and I’m glad to hear that you have been able to continue to keep up with some of the things you like, despite your injury.

  24. So glad your back in whatever capacity, you have been missed!!! Praying for comfort, strength and rapid recovery my friend. So sorry you have had such a hard time this time around. Love and hugs (((xx)))

    • Thank you, Len. I’ll admit, this has indeed been a rough trip and the battle still rages but I’m determined to get the use of my hand and arm back. Thank you for the prayers and you know that’s a two-way street. Did I notice on your blog that you live near Kansas City. I grew up on a ranch in the southeast part of the state. I always tell everyone it’s a great place to be from. The bottom line for me was that was where my faith, morals and conscience were developed and they’ve held strong and true to this day.

      • Yes I live in Kansas City (the city proper) now I did live in a little town of Tonganoxie we had built a home on acreage in 1989 but it got to be too much for us to keep up last year so we sold and moved back to the city and it has been an adjustment LOL. I am orginally from Pueblo Colorado born and raised. Hubs is from Logan, West Virginia but here are and you are right this is the best place to be from and yes morals, faith and conscience are bred in these bible belt states.. I love it! God bless you my friend may He give you peace, comfort, and strength with a quick recovery ! Amen

  25. gpcox says:

    Welcome back!! I don’t own an IPad, but I can see how it would be very helpful to you – I’m glad. Good to see you back.

  26. lignumdraco says:

    Sorry to hear about the anaesthetic problems/complications but it sounds like everything is progressing in the right direction. Thanks for the visits. As I said before, don’t rush the recovery.

    • Thank you for stopping by. I’ll be pacing myself with my postings. The i-Pad allows me to read and comment on blogs that I otherwise wouldn’t have the hand strength to accomplish at this stage of recovery. I had no idea how much easier it would make my life. I have much to learn about using the i-Pad but I only have positive things to say about using it. I don’t leave home without it.

  27. Sending your prayers for healing. I know they say God won’t give you more than you can handle, sometimes tho, I begin to wonder if He got me mixed up with someone else??? I try to take things day by day. Or hour by hour. Or even minute by minute. What ever it takes to survive. I also do tons of deep breathing. Oxygen is very healing and often concentrating on my breath can calm pain and distress. Look forward to you posting again. Happy Easter!

    • Jodi – Thank you for the warm wishes. I have a small plaque of the saying that God won’t give me more than I can handle – – but I will confess — I have days that I ask, “are you certain this is what you meant?” Of course it’s what he meant or it wouldn’t be happening, but all the same, it can be hard to accept. I have the award you bestowed upon me just before I went into this surgery and I thank you ever so much. I will be posting and sending that award on very soon. You have definitely been very patient and I am honored that you thought of me. Thanks again.

  28. Sheri, just got back on from the long day of celebrating Easter with my Florida family. I am thrilled that you will resume blogging soon. I love your book reviews. Truth is, we have all missed you and hope you will be 100% soon.

    A successful baseball player would say that curve balls are part and parcel in the game. We take them along with fast balls and sliders … and you are an ace player and can handle most of what is thrown at you. Go hit another one out of the ballpark. Look forward to your new posts 🙂

  29. Sheri, I join the others in welcoming you back to your blog and rejoicing at your relatively quick recovery. Don’t rush things though. Take your time and listen to your body. You are so right about curve balls coming from the most unexpected directions and the valuable lessons learned as a result. I imagine there are few of us who have not ducked more than one of them!

    • Patricia – It’s wonderful to see you. This week is a test to see how the arm and hand hold up. Of course the left hand is still doing the typing. I see the surgeon again tomorrow and am anxious to learn what he has to say about how the elbow nerves are settling into their new home with their cousins across the way. I know you are extremely busy and am looking forward to reading a blog from you that your new novel has launched.

  30. Uzoma says:

    That’s great–Sheri is going to start blogging again! Oh I have also missed you! I started following your blog only a few weeks before you left for the surgery. I’m so sorry about the side effect of Anesthesia–that one sad truth you shared there. But then, there is nothing as wonderful as getting all the love and support. You have always been in my prayers and knowing you’ll be blogging again is a bundle of joy for me! I can’t wait to read your book reviews and thoughts on them.

    • Uzomo – You are so kind. I haven’t forgotten that you passed on an award to me and I have it in my stack of blogs to prepare. Jodi hit my in-basket with an award and a few seconds latter here came yours — I haven’t forgotten either one of you for your kindness. While I’ve been “away” I’ve been following your progress and it’s amazing. You are now a ‘Published Author,’ you’ve broken all sound barriers for blogging hits and your stories never cease to touch me in ways I thought impossible. Keep up the good work my friend.

  31. YAY – you’re going to start blogging again! I can’t wait and you know we miss you. I always love reading your posts, especially about veterans. Your knowledge about that subject blows me away and I’ve learned a LOT.
    I’m so sorry about the post-anesthesia side effects. That’s really a bummer. Yet, 70 wpm with one hand! DUDE! That’s incredible. Recovery is happening and that’s great!

    • Hi Patti and Happy Easter to you there on the west coast. The i-Pad has turned into a life saver for my arm and hands. I wouldn’t be back without it. I’m so ready to start living life again and want to do all the things I used to do. I’m tired of the doctors and everyone else telling me that I have to wait or slow down. Don’t they know I have things to do and places to go. I recognize healing takes time and I’m not the most patient person in the universe — but a woman can take only so much of this. I love seeing your face here and look for a book review on Thursday:)

  32. Thoughts and prayers, Sheri. Sorry you are having so many difficulties thrown your way. Hoping things will turn around and move more quickly towards greater fulfilling hours for you.

    Yes, I have had some curve balls thrown my way, since July last year. Am dealing with polymyalgia rheumatica and giant cell arteritis, and being treated with high doses of prednisone. What devastating side effects! I feel many times ready for the “home.” My writing level is tragically lacking in depth, thinking is blurred, and it is with great concerted effort I blog from the heart. I pray this muscle disease will go into remission in the next few years or so and that the cerebral artery inflammation will not develop into blindness.

    Your book reviews are so fascinating and continue to expand my reading enjoyment. Recently I read the one about the 1,000 white women who were married off to the Cheyenne Indians during the settlement of the West. What an event! I have sent away for the book and look forward to reading about this wild adventure. Thanks to your efforts, I have broadened my worldly knowledge, and to a minor extent, branched a tad more into the fictional aspect of reading versus my familiar non-fiction genre.

    My fondest respect and hopes for you always,

    • Jeanne – My prayers are with you. I’ll do most anything to stay away from prednisone but I also know sometimes it’s not possible to do so. Any of the conditions having to do with nerves and muscle groupings leave us fuzzy and hurting and I understand fully the devastation of knowing I have to dig deeper and it takes me longer to come up with a simple sentence.
      I’m pleased you enjoy my book reviews. Thank you for saying so. I’ve read some wonderful books while I’ve been recovering and the book I’m reviewing this coming Thursday, ‘Calling Me Home’ by Julie Kibler is not only a debut novel and if I gave stars – I’d give it 10.
      I so enjoy your spiritual posts. I may not always comment but I do always read. They provide devotional time for me and often at times when I need it the most. Hugs, Sheri

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